How to Meditate and Be More Mindful

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This is How Positive Change Happens… When I work with people in individual counselling or couples counselling in Vancouver or via skype, I often hear requests for “tools”. That makes so much sense. We need tools to be able to achieve our goals in...

Addiction & the Need for Connection

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This is How Positive Change Happens… Today, my mind has been wonderfully blown and my heart has been beautifully blasted open. I’m so grateful a colleague shared an article with me that offers a fresh and amazing perspective on addiction, the causes of it,...

From Criticism and Blame to What?

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This is How Positive Change Happens… From Criticism and Blame to What? One of the biggest obstacles we can experience in communication is attempting to address issues or resolve concerns by coming at the other person with criticism/blame. That approach almost...

Remember Death: The Best Intervention?

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This is How Positive Change Happens… Remember Death: The Best Intervention? I worked with a client who was having difficulty sleeping because their mind and heart began to get intensely preoccupied with that fact that they were going die. This person did not...

The Gottman Couples Retreat Board Game

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This is How Positive Change Happens… Great News! The Gottman Couples Retreat Board Game Relationships can be really hard sometimes. That’s why we need lots of tools to deal with the inevitable conflicts, disconnects, and slumps. One of the effective tools...

Compassionate Forgiveness

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This is How Positive Change Happens… Compassionate Forgiveness One of my newsletter subscribers wrote and asked me if I would write about forgiveness.  I am happy to take on the challenge. I say “challenge” because I have long felt that forgiveness,...

True Sharing, True Acknowledgement

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This is How Positive Change Happens… True Sharing, True Acknowledgement “If your partner has never shown that he or she deeply feels your emotional pain, the pain will remain alive. No logical conversation will fix the hurt. There needs to be an emotional...

Ingredients for Happiness

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This is How Positive Change Happens… Ingredients for Happiness I think I’ll go out on a limb and make the sweeping generalization that basically all humans want to be happy. And, it seems that there’s also quite a bit of confusion about what...