Addiction & the Need for Connection

This is How Positive Change Happens… Today, my mind has been wonderfully blown and my heart has been beautifully blasted open. I’m so grateful a colleague shared an article with me that offers a fresh and amazing perspective on addiction, the causes of it,...

From Criticism and Blame to What?

This is How Positive Change Happens… From Criticism and Blame to What? One of the biggest obstacles we can experience in communication is attempting to address issues or resolve concerns by coming at the other person with criticism/blame. That approach almost...

Remember Death: The Best Intervention?

This is How Positive Change Happens… Remember Death: The Best Intervention? I worked with a client who was having difficulty sleeping because their mind and heart began to get intensely preoccupied with that fact that they were going die. This person did not...

The Gottman Couples Retreat Board Game

This is How Positive Change Happens… Great News! The Gottman Couples Retreat Board Game Relationships can be really hard sometimes. That’s why we need lots of tools to deal with the inevitable conflicts, disconnects, and slumps. One of the effective tools...

The Criticism – Defense Dance

This is How Positive Change Happens… The Criticism – Defense Dance Most of the time, when we perceive we have been criticized, we react with defensiveness. Sometimes, our defensiveness includes an attack on or a criticism of the other person. So then, they...

Compassionate Forgiveness

This is How Positive Change Happens… Compassionate Forgiveness One of my newsletter subscribers wrote and asked me if I would write about forgiveness.  I am happy to take on the challenge. I say “challenge” because I have long felt that forgiveness,...

Not Waiting for Others

Real change occurs for us when we are able to stop waiting around for others to change and instead step forward and give ourselves the healing and freedom we seek.

True Sharing, True Acknowledgement

This is How Positive Change Happens… True Sharing, True Acknowledgement “If your partner has never shown that he or she deeply feels your emotional pain, the pain will remain alive. No logical conversation will fix the hurt. There needs to be an emotional...